What is good true coaching?
Good True Coaching is supporting another person's self discovery, personal goals & healing processes. True Coaching assists people to come to their Own Answers through intuition & natural connection to Source/Creator.
Coaching supports and respects individuality, it assists you to recognize & grow upon your unique strengths.
A true coach knows that confidence is a skill that can be learned and is happy to teach the processes for you to gain that skill.
NOTE: A good coach will Not tell you what to do, they may make suggestions or offer insights, but first and foremost, their goal is to assist you in discovering the answers for yourself! They will offer tools, new habits, and exercises to get to your Own answers. A good coach wants to see You succeed and You cannot do that if the answers are what the Coach came up with. You will not feel empowered or confident within yourself if the answers are not your own, you will instead feel more indebted to the coach for your answers and ideas...this is not supporting your inner confidence.
Internal motivation & meaning is what a good coach will cultivate & encourage.
Self-Esteem can only come from the Self in connection to Source. A good coach knows this, and will make sure to point out your successes. The best coaches will guide ethically to make sure you know the change is ultimately happening as a result of your own work.
A true coach is optimistic and yet doesn't over-inflate potential outcomes, in other words they don't make unrealistic promises... instead they highlight the most beneficial attributes you carry and utilize them for your best results.
Good Coaching is non-judgmental, direct, yet compassionate.
True authentic coaching assists you to build trust in yourself in order for you to know yourself at a deeper level.
The best kind of Coaching creates an opportunity for you to know it is possible, and that it is completely Ok to be authentically yourself.
Good coaching provides practical useful everyday information & processes for positive Real transformation in the areas of your focus.
What you should feel with Good Coaching- The Healthy signs:
You feel Heard, Seen & Understood
You should feel that what you say is safely held with respect & confidence
You should feel the coach is attentive & is actively trying to understand your situation, goals, & patterns (positive & negative)
You have new insights into yourself (light-bulb moments) during or after coaching sessions upon reflection
You feel Clarity as a result of sessions & are given tools to continue building upon that clarity in your life
You feel Hopeful
You feel reassured by the coach that you are fully Capable & Competent
You feel Validated without ego-fluffing
You feel confident that the coach recognizes & can assist with your negative patterns or problems you'd like to resolve
You feel secure that you have attainable realistic goals to work towards with a coach who you trust to be with you along the way
You feel Motivated & Creative
You Realize your True Uniqueness
You’ve been given practical tools to take home with you for personal everyday use
You feel Un-stuck (if you felt that way prior)
Problems feel less muddled and more solvable
For a great example of good coaching & great techniques, check out this video of Mel Robbins below: